Shitty relationships, 60-hour work weeks, negative-ass people, contradicting friends, unfulfilling jobs and I could go on and on. This is stress and it’s killing us from the inside out. Stress is one of the most violent acts you can put upon your body. And what makes it even more violent is how quiet and subtle it is. Each unhappy, frustrating, “I don’t like this shit” thing you let linger for years and years is stress taking a camouflage-bush-hidden sniper shot you didn’t even see coming at your health and happiness. Do that shit for 10 years and you can only imagine what the damage would be internally and I’m not exaggerating that shit one bit.
Another way to describe this silent assassin is to pretend you’re being chased by a ravenous grizzly bear who doesn’t want to cuddle. A lot of shit is going to start happening. First off, you can forget about sleeping or relaxing because you’re being chased by a GAWD damn grizzly bear. Panic will be your main emotion until empty-honey-pot pooh bear leaves you alone. Burning calories isn’t happening because escaping death and conserving fuel is way more important than sprinting off that toaster strudel you had this morning. You’re not going to digest food because again you’re trying to escape a Kodiac and that’s a waste of energy at this current time. Because your digestion is shit that means your immune system is going to be garbage (since majority of your immune system is in your gut) so expect to get sick at the same time you’re trying to get away from this monster (man that would suck). This list is much longer but if we stop at just not burning calories and not digesting food all because you won’t tell your shitty ass sibling to stop being an asshole and be more supportive of you, you’re already looking at a significant amount of weight gain, even if you’re eating relatively healthy. And typically where you find weight gain you’ll find a stressful situation that occurred before. When this happens we say “this weight gain is making me unhappy” when actually it’s your unhappiness that caused your weight gain (provided you’re not eating like its the state fair every day).
That feeling of constant distress and a state of danger (the grizzly bear thing I was talking about earlier if you made it this far) is what your body thinks is happening when you’re stressed out. And not by one of the most dangerous predators in the wild, but by simple shit — like maybe laying next to your sweetheart every night for the last 15 years who you can’t stand the sight of. Only you know what makes you happy. So asking someone else how you should relieve stress is like me asking you what I should eat for dinner tonight. Go do what makes you happy and gives you peace and don’t ask for permission because this is a life or death situation son.
Because as much as we think we’re doing ourselves a favor by smiling and just dealing with bullshit we don’t like, you’re actually causing a toxic environment on the inside that will destroy you if ignored. Just like you can’t physically breathe water for too long without dying, you physically can not have stressful shit ignored or not be taken care of without catastrophic shit happening on the inside. Now I’m not telling you to give the finger to everyone you don’t like, because you might be unemployed or be a lonely piece of shit on the weekends. But you have to be aware of and be honest with the things that are causing you stress. And figure out a way to manage it or get rid of it, either mentally or physically. Because there is no lying to your body. You can laugh, smile and bullshit your way to people or outside situations as much as you want. But if you don’t like something/someone and it’s causing you stress and you don’t man/woman up to take care of it (even from an emotional stand point like shutting your eyes and going to a meadow full of butterflies and shit in your head), you might as well stand against a stone wall with a blindfold on, cigarette lit and let the stress firing squad have at you until there’s nothing left.